Why Your Habits Might Be Holding Your Healing Hostage (And What to Do About It)

Alison Singleton
Jun 4
3 min read

Ever feel like you’re doing everything right… but still feel off?

You're eating well. Taking your supplements. Avoiding the foods your body flares up from. You've cleaned up your lifestyle—and yet you're still tired, bloated, foggy, or dragging yourself through the day.

If this sounds like you, then perhaps the ideas below will help you get unstuck. You're an important part of your own healing process. Supplements, diets, and detoxes absolutely have their place—but so does your attitude and how you feel 99% of the time.

And I want to gently offer a thought: what if it’s not just your body that needs a reset—but your thought patterns?

Joe Dispenza, in You Are the Placebo, shares something powerful:

“Your personality creates your personal reality.”

That means your thoughts, feelings, beliefs and behaviours—the things you do, think, feel on autopilot—are shaping your biology.

Here’s how: every time you think a thought, your brain releases chemicals—neuropeptides—that communicate with the cells of your body. If you’re constantly thinking stress-based thoughts, your body gets flooded with the same stress chemistry. Over time, those neuropeptides literally begin to alter your cellular environment, triggering the same genes, the same immune responses, and the same symptoms.

As Joe puts it:

“The same thoughts always lead to the same choices, the same choices lead to the same behaviours, the same behaviours lead to the same experiences, and the same experiences produce the same emotions.”

If you're waking up each day already bracing for another battle with your body, repeating the same routine, worrying about the same symptoms, talking about how tired you are… well, you’re sending your body the same instructions to stay in survival mode.

And in survival, the body doesn't prioritise healing.

You don’t need to have had a breakthrough moment or massive trauma release for this to be true. For many of us, it’s simply a pattern, a loop we become stuck in.

You wake up, eat the same “safe” foods, think the same thoughts about your symptoms, carry the same low-level anxiety, watch the same shows, check the same social feeds, rehearse the same worry. And by the end of the day, your body is stuck in exactly the same chemical state it started in: tension, uncertainty, and survival.

That loop can feel impossible to break—but it’s not.

This is where we start. Not with perfection. But with awareness, persistence, and a willingness to believe that how you feel day-to-day matters.

You don’t have to have it all figured out. You just have to begin.

Try this instead:

Ask your body a different question: “What do you need today?” instead of “What’s wrong with me now?”
Interrupt the routine: go for a walk, listen to a song that shifts your mood, turn off the symptom search - don't Google it!
Journal one win. Every day. No matter how small. Gratitude literally shifts our biochemistry into a healing mode.

As Joe Dispenza says:

“If you keep firing the same thoughts, you’re wiring the same circuits.”

When you change the thought—even slightly—you begin to change the circuit. And that’s where real healing becomes possible.

Let me be clear: this isn’t about thinking happy thoughts and pretending everything's fine. It’s about breaking unconscious patterns that are holding your healing hostage.

Here’s how you can begin:

🩷 Pattern Breakers to Try This Week:

Notice your habitual-thoughts. When you feel that symptom creep in, what’s the first thought? Can you pause before reacting?
Ask a new question. Instead of “Why is this happening again?” try “What’s my body trying to tell me today?”
Change your state. Move your body, shake off tension, smile at someone, or do something unexpected. Break the loop. Listen to uplift music, read something uplifting.
Choose one belief to rewrite. Something like: “My body is capable of healing, even if I don’t see it yet.”